This post is for the YA Highway Blog Lovefest. :)
Happy Valentine's Day, everyone! I kind of miss the days when everyone brought paper valentines for the whole class, we got to draw hearts instead of learning math, no one was technically "alone", and the sugar high was comparable to Halloween. Even now that I have an awesome man to share the day with, there's a bittersweetness that prevails. You know? Maybe it's the memory of past Valentine's Days spent alone, or maybe it's just odd to have the calendar forcing us into romance. It feels like the couples-only dances at weddings, when singles have to clear the floor. Does anyone actually enjoy those? They're like a romance costume, not an actual romance. But, back in the day, kissing was something we did on a dare and our interactions with the opposite sex weren't tainted with the fear of dying alone.
Wow, that kind of got away from me.
Most of us have had our share of loneliness. Oddly enough, it's one of the unifying factors of humanity.
I was lonely for many Valentine's Days.
Then I met hubby. Yay! Love!
For much of our early relationship, hubby and I did not live in the same city. We visited each other whenever we could, but there were long stretches when most of our interactions were online, through instant messages, social media and email. Maybe part of the reason I fell for him was because his commas were so thoughtfully placed. ;)
Even though I was in a serious relationship, there were still some lonely Valentine's Days.
Some of you may have experienced this. After enough lonely Valentine's Days, you start growing a thick skin. You tell yourself it doesn't matter, you call it Single's Awareness Day, you do what you can not to think about the fact that the dj has ordered you off the floor. It's just another day to get through. Those of us who do have "special friends" sometimes feel an invisible sense of obligation, or maybe even guilt that our single friends aren't safely in the "taken" crowd. There are so many angles, so many layers of complication within romance, that a box of chocolates or a heart pendent feels oddly out of place.
This year I'm going old school. All the way back to the classroom, when everyone got a piece of paper with Snoopy, or Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, or Popples, or My Little Ponies printed on them. This year is about candy and confetti and friendship and fun. Brownies, cupcakes and crayons. It's about you, the awesome people who visit my blog and share your stories. Because you're all my Valentines. :)